Negative Nancys

The urban dictionary describes a Negative Nancy as Someone who commonly whines, complains, or looks at the bad side of things. (the website even has examples haha)

The past few weeks, I have had my run ins with several Negative Nancys, and I have been surrounded by a lot of negativity.

I feel stressed. And exhausted from freaking out  dweling on it. (why should I? Its not in my hands) But at the end of the day, my mind is racing about what could have been said? What should have been done differently? Why is this happening BLAH BLAH BLAH

If you follow me on twitter, you probably could see over the past 4 days my different posts 


off to the gym to get rid of this knot in my stomach and get some endorphines haha. what else can I do to brighten up the day?
9 Oct via web

And even though the gym did help, I still can’t believe the betrayal I feel.

(Yes. I know Im not being specific. (dont you hate that!) But 1/2 of the issue has to deal with family, and I don’t want them to read this and get the wrong idea.)

Basically, a few incidents happened. I felt used. Betrayed. And really really pissed off. And some of those people, know it. And yet don’t care.

I am the kind of person who tries to think of everyone. Especially their feelings. I don’t want anyone left out, or hurt, or in the dark.

Sometimes this comes to bite me in the booty. Ok…..lets be honest. A lot of the time.

When I tell someone I can’t do something. They look at me like I have three heads.

What do you mean you can’t give me a million dollars, when you did 5 times before?

I hardly EVER tell people no. Oh sure! I can do this, that, and the other thing you need.

Sure, you can take my heart and smash it into a million pieces. NOOOO Problem!

At the end of the day, I am sitting here. Mad. Hurt. Used. and heartbroken all over again. And I think……..why can’t I just be a mean person like these Negative Nancys. Wouldn’t that just be easier?

nope. It’s not in my system. My grandma gives everyone 100%. My mom does it without any favor in return. And here I am following in their footsteps.

the family at my brothers wedding

When you have a friend, family member, or lover stab you in the back, use you, or tell you “Im just not that into you”, what do you do?

Well, Ill tell you what IM going to do today. I’m going to yoga. Yes ma’am. I am going to sweat and breath all this NEGATIVE Sh*t out of my life.

I know I am not perfect. (that is not what this post is about) It also isn’t to say I am the best person in the world. All I am saying is there are about 4 people right now, who are very close to me, that are making me feel this way. And all for different reasons. WHY CAN”T EVERYONE BE NICE!

Eleanor Roosevelt said “Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

So I am off. To make my day a good one. Because I decide whether or not today is going to be a good day, or a day of staying in bed eating all the ice cream haha

Question for you:

Do you find negative nancy’s in your life?

(disclosure. I know my mom’s name is Nancy. I am not talking about her in the post. She has actually been very supportive during all of these situations. Love you mom!)

5 thoughts on “Negative Nancys”

  1. Take care of yourself…you are right, you can’t control them, you can only control how you react…you need to take care of you and Andrew…not the rest of the world. Hope you learn that and can live that in a shorter amount of time than it took me! Remember, I’ve got lots of years on you…it took me WAY too long to put myself and my family ahead of the rest of the world…best wishes for a relaxing day and get that stress out with that yoga, girl!

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